I really need a galpal. My honey says its not necessary because he's my best friend. Ummm, thats all good but I need someone to discuss from shoes to politics and how it affects women. And he ain't the one to do it with.
However, I must say my choice of galpals sometimes can leave a whole lot to be desired. I seem to choose people that are not really trying to be my friend and I do feel like I am forcing myself on them some time. How sad ... but true.
I feel like all my true "ace bonbons" are left behind in Nigeria. I still have never connected with anyone the way I connected with my old friends back home. I guess thats why I keep up with ALL of them. I know where each and every one of them is and what they are up to.

But back to my story. I work two days on and two days off. And you know there is something so super enjoyable about being off work on a weekday, it has that "take that, world!" feel about it cos I'm in my house chilling while someone somewhere is asking that age old question "when will it be friday?" Haha

Nevertheless, I wish I could find some gal to go out with on those days to do some window or actual shopping. And this weather is so nice. This would be a great time to go bargain hunting or house hunt (thats something I like to do a lot) with a good galpal. But its ok.

Galpals too come with their wahala. Wahalas you don't know thats lurking in the corner and when you least expect it, bam!!!! it hits you right in the face. I don't know. There's something about a lot of adult friendships that ring false. It feels more like 'frenemies" they come close to you to see how you are doing and to compare themselves with you. If they feel like you are doing better then they start spinning some huge tales as if .... you really care that they drive a Sequoia or A.cura MD.X. or their darling husband was recently made the chairman of M.icrosoft blah, blah etc

Still, its all good. You live and you learn and you run as fast as your two left legs can carry you when you run into one of them pyscho chicks and thank God its not you with such problems and if its you .... hmmm I will say plenty prayers for you.

Holler!

posted by lala @ 5:51 PM 2 comments

Smile Chronicles: The Appointment

Friday, May 16, 2008

So I called the dental office today to make an appointment. Surprisingly the secretary remembered me (nice move on her part) and I will be be seeing the good doc in about 4 weeks on the 16th. I hope I don't have other plans by then. I really hate these appointments you have to make light years away but you know, as they say ... you've got to do what you've got to do.

Still need to change my glasses. This whole anti reflective thing on glasses peel off after a while and then your glasses start looking like something the cat dug up. Next time, I getting 2 pairs and some contacts period. Maybe its time to start hunting for some nice frames. I will look into that.

How's life treating ya?
lala

posted by lala @ 10:14 PM 0 comments

Half A Story: Honey & I

Thursday, May 15, 2008

The weirdest thing about life to me has always been how life always works itself out. I look back in my life and I wonder what was I so worried about? And truly these days, I go forth with confidence because I know God will take care of me. I'm not saying I'm not going to suffer any mishaps or bad fortune but I'm saying God will take care of me. He will give me comfort on the worst nights and hold me close.

When I first came to Memphis, little did I know that I would call this place home. The last 2 years have been nothing short of a nightmare but still God taught me so many valuable lessons. I look forward now to everyday at work and at home.

Now some work days are shitty no doubt about that especially with my tech (thats a story for another day) and some home days leave much to be desired but the sum total of the parts from day to day leaves me eternally grateful to God.

In this city I have made lifelong friends and possibly my life partner. Weekends are invariably spent hanging at friends houses eating and watching movies or just cooking and kicking back. I have been truly blessed.

At my part time job, I have a lot of fun with my crew there. Not saying they are all perfect but I'm saying they are easy to work with.

As my relations deepen, I marvel at the fact that I did not meet anybody worthwhile in big ol' DC that was virtually teeming with naijas but in this tiny, tiny Memphis I meet my honey. Anyway, this is just my half of the story.

To be continued
lala

posted by lala @ 5:28 PM 1 comments

Genesis of the Chronicles

Monday, May 12, 2008

Growing up, I always believed beauty took a distant second to having good qualities. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I believed a guy would appreciate me if I was decent, studious and nice more than if I was beautiful. Hmmmmmmm, I have kinda softened on that stance cos the looks will attract the person to you. Unfortunately, I grasped that too late so I have really become lazy about my looks.

Sometimes I long to be that girl that will drive to the furtherest part of town to have her hair done by a certain hairdresser just because the person does the best hair, I long to be that girl that never has chipped nail polish. Fit, really into her looks and always glamorous .... I long to be that girl. The other times, I resent her ... why spend so much time and money on silly things? How many men do I possibly need in this lifetime? Why be so particular about looks etc?

I don't know.

But this year is a year of change and I will embrace change a little bit at a time. My first step - my teeth. Damn these teeth are so jacked up. I have had dental insurance for a long time, why then have I never got my teeth fixed? I really cannot answer that satisfactorily so let me just be quiet. So I have already found a dentist and I will make sure I get the braces I need this year. I just love beautiful smiles. Hopefully I will talk about my visits to the dentist in "The chronicles of the pretty smile" and then I will move to the next goal I want to achieve.

So thats that. I have had a pretty decent Monday. Hope the rest of my week is just as nice. Hope you have a nice week too!
Lala

posted by lala @ 10:06 PM 0 comments

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Well, I have had a whirlwind of a time. I have been to Nigeria (yes!) and back. Oh, that was so much fun. Didn't care too much for the intense heat that left me so lethargic but it was good to see my sisters and their kids, my grandmother and other family members. I didn't really spend a lot of money I think but I enjoyed spending what I had. There is nothing like spending without a care. Made new friends and reconnected with old ones.

Unfortunately I fell ill too. I had an ear infection and a cold that is still lingering on. People still ask me if I have a cold when I talk. But still .... mmm, mmm, mmm I had such a gooooooooood time. Its terrible to be so far from loved ones

My little side hustle is coming to fruition as I have bought my first SUV that I will be shipping to Naija. My brother-in-law was quite excited about the car business cos he is a car fanatic. So next week or so, I will be going to Nashville to the person who ships cars and send it off. I feel pretty excited.

I don't want to work for a paycheck for ever. I want money saved up, a nice home and ability to help people financially. But I don't want to work forever, seriously.

I have another side hustle on my mind but let me see how this one fares first then I bring out the next deal.

Well off I go to my world of P-Square, 2face etc. Just chilling with my naija cds.

Stay blessed,
lala

posted by lala @ 1:56 PM 0 comments

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Name: lala
Home: Memphis, Tennessee, United States
About Me: I'm an introvert. I love challenges and the "path less taken". I have discovered that life more of a journey than a destination so I try to enjoy each day. And if you've never failed at anything then you haven't tried anything outside your comfort zone. Right now, I have a love/hate relationship with Memphis. I love the city because the people are very friendly but careerwise, this place will be a dead end for me.
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