I really need a galpal. My honey says its not necessary because he's my best friend. Ummm, thats all good but I need someone to discuss from shoes to politics and how it affects women. And he ain't the one to do it with.
However, I must say my choice of galpals sometimes can leave a whole lot to be desired. I seem to choose people that are not really trying to be my friend and I do feel like I am forcing myself on them some time. How sad ... but true.
I feel like all my true "ace bonbons" are left behind in Nigeria. I still have never connected with anyone the way I connected with my old friends back home. I guess thats why I keep up with ALL of them. I know where each and every one of them is and what they are up to.

But back to my story. I work two days on and two days off. And you know there is something so super enjoyable about being off work on a weekday, it has that "take that, world!" feel about it cos I'm in my house chilling while someone somewhere is asking that age old question "when will it be friday?" Haha

Nevertheless, I wish I could find some gal to go out with on those days to do some window or actual shopping. And this weather is so nice. This would be a great time to go bargain hunting or house hunt (thats something I like to do a lot) with a good galpal. But its ok.

Galpals too come with their wahala. Wahalas you don't know thats lurking in the corner and when you least expect it, bam!!!! it hits you right in the face. I don't know. There's something about a lot of adult friendships that ring false. It feels more like 'frenemies" they come close to you to see how you are doing and to compare themselves with you. If they feel like you are doing better then they start spinning some huge tales as if .... you really care that they drive a Sequoia or A.cura MD.X. or their darling husband was recently made the chairman of M.icrosoft blah, blah etc

Still, its all good. You live and you learn and you run as fast as your two left legs can carry you when you run into one of them pyscho chicks and thank God its not you with such problems and if its you .... hmmm I will say plenty prayers for you.

Holler!

posted by lala @ 5:51 PM

2 Comments:

At Tue May 27, 10:55:00 AM 2008, UndaCovaSista said…

I can relate to this post. I used to compare my back home friendships to the new ones i'd formed over here and the new ones would always seem to fall short.

I think the key is to keep an open mind and you will eventually meet/find people you connect with in the way you want - I have! Thankfully, i'm not the kind of person who needs tons of friends, just a few good ones.

And i'm green with envy at any job that allows the flexibility that yours does :)

I'm sure ive been here before sometime in the distant past..welcome back
At Tue Jun 03, 05:18:00 PM 2008, Anonymous said…

Watch out for galpals!!!!!I was bored and was just lazing around the internet when i read your wish. i am just recovering from a back stab from my galfriend. As i am writing , my galfriend is out there in the Bahamas with my Boyfriend. i vowed never to keep any galfriend again, it has been a lesson because i was too trusting. i guess they were shagging under my nose. watch out and learn from my mistake