I heard a piece of news today which made me very happy. One of honey's friends (abi, acquaintances) whose girlfriend had moved to Dallas. I almost cried for her. So many things she had been through, bless her heart which no woman should have to go through for anybody.

This poor lady stood by him through thick and thin with his non-working ass all in the name of being a musician. Hello!!!! If you are in your forties and the music thing hasn't quite panned out yet, you might want to get a JOB!!! Who really depends on gigs and stuff for a livelihood in a place like Memphis, how many Nigerians do we even have here, that they will do throwing parties enough for you to pay your bills off of?

Anyway back to the story, this lady "J" worked her butt off at a minimum wage job to support the two of them while he did not work partly because of the music thing and partly because he did not want to pay child support to his baby mama (loser!!!!!)

Well, this guy went overseas to check out the music scene and of cos left J to take care of all the bills while he was gone. He came back, nobody saw any changes in him, just mouthing off as usual. Then a woman called that she was having his baby .... oloshi, that was all he could achieve overseas.

To top it all, he got some money back when the airline lost hid babg on his way back from overseas and so they gave him some money back and he bought a ticket to Nigeria (hadn't been back in 12 yrs or more) and drumroll please ..... married a woman there within 2 weeks!!!!!!

J almost lost her mind, she wasn't Nigerian so he used his language to keep her from knowing what he was up to. But the true shocker was that, this girl still was living with him after he came back from marrying a wife. People convinced him to tell her because everybody know she was so good to him. So he told her he was married and the poor thing cried and cried and called everybody from their pastor to all his friends.

I guess what baffled me so much was how she still stayed with this guy AFTER he told her he got married in Nigeria. He displayed all the traditional wedding pictures in the living room, played the tape when people came over as she made pounded yam in the kitchen. It was hard to picture why someone would have absolutely no shame.

And the guy treated her like dirt, yelled at her all the time in front of us when she tried to play with him or anything. Oh my, it still hurts me to think about it. So thats why I'm so proud of her for being able to pick the shreds of her dignity and move somewhere else. Maybe he forced her, I have no idea but she did and I just pray for her that she makes better choices that this.

There were many other things but I'm just glad she has closed this chapter, heard she still visits from Dallas but I pray this chapter will finally be closed in her life.

posted by lala @ 6:26 PM

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