So I ran into this ex I hadn't seen in a while and we got to chatting and eventually we got around to why the relationship did not work. Then he started talking about the girl he dated before me and how she was really his first choice for marriage and I had to ask "So why didn't you marry her? " and he told me because she had younger siblings who would need assistance and he had seen that as a potential source of conflict in the marriage because the girl would not be as willing to release her money preferring instead to use it in helping her younger ones and he did not want a broken home due to the high rates of divorce in America. I swear I needed some help picking my jaw off the floor. And up till this day, anytime they see, she always asks " why didn't we get married?"
Wow! I think people would be surprised how lowly "love" ranks as the reason for getting married. It is rarely ever the number one reason. I was truly shocked but hopefully it worked out for him.
But I wonder if he has a point because at some point in time, the brain has to come into play to make crucial life decisions. It probably shouldn't be all about our feelings. "I feel this, I feel that" sometimes messes us up so I truly don't know. What do y'all think?

posted by lala @ 8:59 PM

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