So believe it or not, growing up, I couldn't wait to be an adult because I sincerely believed that being older automatically came with maturity and more sense. Yeah right! Now I'm older, I realize that age has little or nothing to do with maturity.

Now I know that maturity comes with learning to toss the divalicious behaviors, holding your tongue with you are almost bursting with some well deserved insults and abuses for somebody, taking a deep breath before you toss that plate at somebody's head or a heavy handed slap.

Now I know that maturity is learning, both from your own experiences as well as other people's experiences. Holding your head up high in the middle of negativity and carrying yourself with some dignity and class. So not easy but so worth it in the end.

I talk about this because I remember cussing out one of my "friends" so badly that she never spoke to me anymore. I don't regret it because she deserved it and she admitted it herself. But I wonder if I should have handled the situation differently.

One of my biggest problems in friendshipland is that I have a tendency to be too brutally honest in my opinions. Not always the best way but I really detest all these so called friendships that people laugh in each others face and stab each other behind their backs. It really scares me.

Don't give me your friendship if all I am is fodder for your gossip with other people. Because unfortunately I have a tendency to tell all my business which I am learning is NOT the best way to operate cos the truth is, you really can never tell who your friend is until something happens.

And that is the truth.
Love, lala

posted by lala @ 12:41 AM

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