I just saw a Facebook status that said "just like a shoe, if someone is meant for you, they would fit just perfectly ... No forcing, no struggling and no pain" and I beg to disagree.
Sometimes I feel that's the crux of our marriage problems. This whole Cinderella complex. All about perfection this and perfection that. We are imperfect people! How can we create a perfect union???
Relationships are a lot of work ... On one's self. There really is no point in trying to change your partner. Change your outlook! Make up your mind that you will give 100% over and over again. And sometimes you may have to give up. Sometimes you do. Our life is usually a sum total of our choices and sometimes you make a bad one and if leaving a relationship is the only way to salvage it. Then you have to do. We enter into relationships with too many blinders on and sometimes it takes a minute for people are mature enough to realize this is it! We need to just go on and work on it.
It's this realization that turns good relationships to great relationships. So can we quit envying the greener grass on the other side and water our own lawns?

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Color blocking or Mismatching?

Friday, July 20, 2012

So for everybody who has been told they don't know how to pull an outfit together, your time has come! These days it's all about "color blocking". I was looking at this Facebook page about "black girls killing' it" when it suddenly struck me "wait oh! Babes are just wearing all the neon colors and their wardrobe oh!" I mean, talk about a yellow blazer over a green top and purple pants with pink 5 inches heels, orange purse and blue jewelry. Are you kinda getting the picture here?
So if you have ever been told you need to match your outfits then this is your time to shine. Go on out there with your neon colors and have fun. It's the season of color blocking! Check out my feeble attempts at color blocking :) I no try?

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Closet Makeover Maybe

Monday, July 16, 2012

So I have always wondered why builders build such huge bathrooms. I don't get it. The bathrooms are so big and you don't do nothing but bath and prepare in there. I would much rather have a bigger closet than a big bathroom. We rarely even use the bathtub. Everybody pretty much hops into the shower. In this time crunched era who really has time to run a bath, luxuriate in it for about an hour (hmm, that thought has me going a little bit:) but I have to be realistic. No can't do! However I would like to make my closet over. Any ideas?

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Trying To Enjoy The Suburban Life

Saturday, July 14, 2012

So now that we have a backyard. My diva mama has decided to make herself a garden. Why I call her diva mama? grin that's a story for another day. But so far so good. We have been getting fresh ugu leaves which I can assure you taste delightful. Then there is one she calls "ugbogoro" not sure what it's called in English but I know how to eat it sha :) We also have corn. It has been nice though.Just thinking about the petroleum tanker blaster and about 95 people losing their lives. What a pity. While I can understand why people will try to scoop up free petrol, methinks our mentality is our biggest hindrance to growth and development. That "I can outsmart you" attitude is what leads to this type of behavior. Imagine the people that may have got 3 to 4 buckets of free fuel and how they would have been pumping their chests - like I am sooooo smart. But unfortunately, for some it did not work out. May God be our helper

A few photos of Mama's garden.

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Love, Change and Maturity

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Somebody forwarded me an article that said "marriage is not to make you happy but to make you holy". I almost passed out but on later reflection I have realized how true it is. Marriage is serious growing up I no go lie you. You have die to self as much as you can or either the marriage will not make it or you will have an unhappy spouse. After years of living in a condo, we finally moved to the suburbs. I know right? Cos I was the ultimate city girl. But it's surprisingly cool to live here. Firstly we are 5 minutes away from everything and I mean everything. The restaurants, the shops, Walmart, everything. I love that! But the flip side is that it's too much yard work. And I have no plans of doing any yard work so the Mr. has his work cut out for him. But he doesn't like yard work either. So it's frustrating. Having to pay all these people to take care of this grass that grows like weed. But if that's the worst of my complaints about the Mr. then I'm crazy right? Of course it's not. But you just can't say everything!!!! You just can't. But still I'm proud of myself that no matter how angry I am with the Mr. I grit my teeth and still smile and say what I need to say calmly. Go me!!!!! Trust me that's so not easy but it works far more than yelling and screaming and it also stop my blood pressure from sky rocketing. Bottom line, it is what it is. And once you learn how not to let the situation overpower you, you start enjoying your marriage and your life Le Chaim Lala

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Hello ..... Anybody there?

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Whoa!!! Haven't been here in ages. I just saw this spot again oh and i decided ... I think I still want to blog. Sometimes its hard to write consistently because it always feels your life is not interesting enough and I would hate to fluff up my life aka Facebook syndrome.
Ohhh but I love that Facebook oh. The voyeurism that one can get up to there na wa! You just see who is doing what with whom oh!!!!! God will help us abeg. I have been catching up with so many people, its too cool. And what about unfriending someone???? Who does that? And why do you do that? I must confess when people unfriend me, it makes me upset. I wanna say "wetin dey shele now? wetin I do you?
But its all good
Glad to be back!!!!!!!

posted by lala @ 6:30 PM 2 comments

About Me

Name: lala
Home: Memphis, Tennessee, United States
About Me: I'm an introvert. I love challenges and the "path less taken". I have discovered that life more of a journey than a destination so I try to enjoy each day. And if you've never failed at anything then you haven't tried anything outside your comfort zone. Right now, I have a love/hate relationship with Memphis. I love the city because the people are very friendly but careerwise, this place will be a dead end for me.
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