A little achy from working out, I just realized how moody I'm feeling. I have been moody lately and that always happens to me when I miss appointments and stuff. Generally, when I don't live up to expectations. I was supposed to go to the orthodontist on Monday and I couldn't get out of bed. That left me so depressed and then I started thinking of so many other things floating around in my mind.

Things like the fact that I have done nothing towards my wedding besides tearing out dresses and other stuff I like out of magazines. Firstly, I don't even know if I want a big wedding. I really want to be able to share that day with my loved ones and honey's loved one but I don't know how to achieve that without a traditionally whitey type wedding.
I need to lose some (scratch that, a lot) of weight in order to look good and right now, I am moving at a snail's place and I don't think that would cut it, at all.

The weather also tends to leave me a little bluesy, don't know why. I know, I know all those explanations about why it happens. True it does happen. So, so far, here I am worrying about everything under the sun and moon and I don't know where to start.

I got it, I need a lifecoach. Someone that can point out all my mistakes and tell me how to do better. Ok, one more thing to do. Anyway, I need suggestions. Please help

lala

posted by lala @ 7:01 PM 0 comments

Believing The Hype

Friday, November 21, 2008

I won't lie, I have got caught up in the hype of people sometimes. Really, really believing what they say, you know ... expecting a great deal out of them and phew! nothing, nada... just "B.S"ing at its best.
One of the worst ones that really made me sit up was a wedding I went to last year. I was wrong on my own part sah because I hate to admit it but I wasn't invited. Haa, sigh of relief... finally said it. I know, I know but at my core, I don't still believe in these attendance by invitations only weddings. I mean ... I know nobody had unlimited funds but its seems pretty mean to me. I will be too glad that people took time out of their busy schedule to come to my wedding so ain't no way, I am turning them away.

Anyway, back to my shameful experience. The was a lot of hype, hype, hype about the wedding. Don't want to give too many details away but bloggers were going to be there, fashionistas etc and "professional people" So knowing the bride, sent out an email and prepared to go to the wedding.

Man, talk about embarrassing.. I went up to the bride and said congrats, she just answered very coolly. At the receptions, name dropping after name dropping yet the food was so tiny, the music was so dry. The clothes were so unimpressive. Mind you, I'm not even big on a lot of stuff but it was the noise and hype about this wedding that made me have an expectations. And were those expectations crushed. People were so fixated on titles but it was so boring. I haven't been to a wedding so boring in ages.

The decorations were parse, the wedding cake was like a Sam's club cake. It was weird, all I could think was ... whats going on?.

My beau and I quickly hightailed it as soon as we could and went to a ... McDonalds cos were we so starving.

So the moral of the story is .. "mo gbo, mo ya (or whatever that is) days are over. If you don't have an IV in hand, sit you ass at home!!!!!!

First time I have shared this story, for a long time I was so embarrassed to talk about it.

posted by lala @ 5:36 PM 0 comments

J And The Monster

Monday, November 17, 2008

I heard a piece of news today which made me very happy. One of honey's friends (abi, acquaintances) whose girlfriend had moved to Dallas. I almost cried for her. So many things she had been through, bless her heart which no woman should have to go through for anybody.

This poor lady stood by him through thick and thin with his non-working ass all in the name of being a musician. Hello!!!! If you are in your forties and the music thing hasn't quite panned out yet, you might want to get a JOB!!! Who really depends on gigs and stuff for a livelihood in a place like Memphis, how many Nigerians do we even have here, that they will do throwing parties enough for you to pay your bills off of?

Anyway back to the story, this lady "J" worked her butt off at a minimum wage job to support the two of them while he did not work partly because of the music thing and partly because he did not want to pay child support to his baby mama (loser!!!!!)

Well, this guy went overseas to check out the music scene and of cos left J to take care of all the bills while he was gone. He came back, nobody saw any changes in him, just mouthing off as usual. Then a woman called that she was having his baby .... oloshi, that was all he could achieve overseas.

To top it all, he got some money back when the airline lost hid babg on his way back from overseas and so they gave him some money back and he bought a ticket to Nigeria (hadn't been back in 12 yrs or more) and drumroll please ..... married a woman there within 2 weeks!!!!!!

J almost lost her mind, she wasn't Nigerian so he used his language to keep her from knowing what he was up to. But the true shocker was that, this girl still was living with him after he came back from marrying a wife. People convinced him to tell her because everybody know she was so good to him. So he told her he was married and the poor thing cried and cried and called everybody from their pastor to all his friends.

I guess what baffled me so much was how she still stayed with this guy AFTER he told her he got married in Nigeria. He displayed all the traditional wedding pictures in the living room, played the tape when people came over as she made pounded yam in the kitchen. It was hard to picture why someone would have absolutely no shame.

And the guy treated her like dirt, yelled at her all the time in front of us when she tried to play with him or anything. Oh my, it still hurts me to think about it. So thats why I'm so proud of her for being able to pick the shreds of her dignity and move somewhere else. Maybe he forced her, I have no idea but she did and I just pray for her that she makes better choices that this.

There were many other things but I'm just glad she has closed this chapter, heard she still visits from Dallas but I pray this chapter will finally be closed in her life.

posted by lala @ 6:26 PM 0 comments

Smile Chronicles: Brace-Face Alert

Sunday, November 02, 2008

So I finally got my braces on. It was not as complicated or as painful as I expected but damn! its been hard enjoying my food. I have cut up all my food into little pieces, can't bite into anything with my front teeth, have to send all my food to the back teeth and I always feel like I have something lodged between my teeth (duh!) so I'm always sucking my teeth and trying to get phantom stuff out.
On the plus side, I have become better at taking care of my teeth. I brush twice daily and I floss. Gasp! Yes, I floss. And to think a couple of weeks ago, I didn't even know how to floss. But you know what they say ... practice makes perfect, so now I'm so much better at it and its easier for me to floss.
It does hurt sometimes and I have to put wax over the tooth responsible for making the inside of my mouth hurt. But right now, I have no regrets. I have always wanted to do this.

posted by lala @ 6:51 PM 0 comments

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Name: lala
Home: Memphis, Tennessee, United States
About Me: I'm an introvert. I love challenges and the "path less taken". I have discovered that life more of a journey than a destination so I try to enjoy each day. And if you've never failed at anything then you haven't tried anything outside your comfort zone. Right now, I have a love/hate relationship with Memphis. I love the city because the people are very friendly but careerwise, this place will be a dead end for me.
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